When we think of Thanksgiving it’s usually defined as a time of gathering, a sharing of a meal with – relatives by birth, commitments or extended families. And, each of these relationships has a starting point – a location that begins the definition of how any relationship progresses.
Many times that relationship begins with expectations — expectations based on unrealistic demands on one’s self and others. These can be positive or negative depending on our prior experiences and observations.
The difficult juncture occurs when either party changes the “agreement” causing the other one to adapt or not for the relationship to continue.
Sometimes these are not expectations of negative actions, but unrealistic expectations of the Norman Rockwell depiction of the “perfect” family Thanksgiving dinner that so often eludes us in the frantic buildup to the holiday season.
Here’s something to be thankful for…
We all have choices about how we will react in any situation.
The first four steps of The Adapter Factor are:
- Hit the Pause Button,
- Assess the Situation,
- Figure Out the Why and now,
- What is Your Current GPS Location.
By taking advantage of these steps, decisions can be made that can alter the responses to “programmed” button pushing in these family situations. This can be a new starting point. A new opportunity to change the outcome of expected interactions.
Now, more than ever, we need to offer a new perspective in our relationships with everyone we encounter – from those waiting in line for the doors to open on Black Friday – to those preparing our Thanksgiving repast – to those whose day will be lonely and the plate empty.
Working with expectations
Where is your starting point? Where will be your end destination? How do you intend to get there? When you look back next year on this Thanksgiving, what will you remember?
Create an outcome that you want to remember, one filled with joy and respect and the knowledge that change happens so be ready and celebrate it.
May this be a truly Happy Thanksgiving.
Benefit from the Adapter Factor
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